As we wrap this Blog series on “Why Am I Still Single” lemme encourage you not to wrap the discussion! You have no idea how important your views and experiences can affect someone else’s life! We are all in this together… So don’t be shy!
In this last section, stop and think for a second… Look around! It may be tougher to do today, but look at the people in your life that have had successful relationships. For me, the earlier generation actually is the one that makes excellent role models! Back in the day, couples had their specific roles in marriage. Though not a popular concept today, this isn’t such a bad idea! Viewing the gender roles really did allow for less stress with their expectations for one another. Leaning on each other doesn’t only help balance the responsibilities each has, especially in today’s work world where many more women work outside the home, but your partner then becomes truly a partner! You can depend on them to meet that need, which ultimately provides a routine that adds to the foundation of your home and marriage. With this, comes structure and it is a fact that actually security does more for us emotionally than much else. Kids have proved that point time after time! Thus, you have a connection, which hopefully adds to great communication, which then lends itself to healthy intimacy, etc. So wouldn’t you agree then, it’s just better to really evaluate things before you jump into something? Become something that makes you realize your value. Then settle for nothing less than what is the standard for that value, knowing you are making a commitment to give more than take and screw that whole 50-50 idea… Give 100 and automatically get 100 right back!
I remember my grandparents striving more for what they put into their relationship and their family, rather than just measuring how they were feeling, how they were treated and what they got out of it!
How many divorce couples today say things like, “I wasn’t having fun anymore, I’ve lost my feelings for him or her or we’ve just drifted a part?”
That’s what society reinforces every day it seems… The all mighty SELF! Think about it! We are constantly church-hopping to be fed or because the pastor’s sermons don’t motivate us to feel good. Or we complain our job sucks, because they don’t appreciate us. Or we say, “why try at my marriage, he or she hasn’t looked at me in years!” That’s why they call it work, but the fringe benefits are so worth it!
Thy guy I’m married to today, I would have completely overlooked years ago! (Don’t gasp, he’s aware!) When I took my eyes off those surface priorities and realized my value in Christ, it made it way harder to just settle. And I was more interested in character and integrity, which thankfully turned out to be the right person I am blessed with. Now my path for my purpose is even stronger, because I’m on the same journey with someone who is on the same page! (Not that I don’t still try to change him in other areas from time to time… I’m a woman, it’s what we do!)
Watching the Olympics, it has been cool to see how many athletes, who failed repeatedly in the past, that didn’t give up, ultimately get their gold!
You really can do anything you set your mind to! With faith and determination and the messages of self assuredness playing strongly in your mind and heart…. And for those who believe in God’s Word - Most importantly, His promise we can claim that we can in fact can, “DO ALL THINGS THROUGH HE WHO STRENGTHENS US…” Oh and.. It is never too late to start!
So instead of filling your mind with doubt, don’t waste time asking “Why Am I Still Single?” From my experience, might just be better to think, “How can I take advantage of my time alone today?!” Cuz you will often miss those times. Can’t tell you the last time I got to used the restroom BY MYSELF! Lol
When we see our situation as “Get To” rather than “Have To,” It really is amazing what we can accomplish! I am so anxious to hear from you if you have a comment or experience you can share! I’m grateful we have a place to chat up ideas and share our experience. So what are you waiting for? Let’s Discusssssss…